Hi Tracy, and thank you so much for reading and your for your refreshing and honest response. I sincerely appreciate you taking the time to provide feedback as this is exactly what I was hoping would spawn from these article. I am like you, that I'd love to believe this is all at dating is about. I'm a hopeless romantic to the core so it's hard to heard otherwise, specifically from the mouths of some White and Black men. But my HEART roots for those who simply fall in love because they fell in love with the beauty of each others souls and not for a lack of self-love. Thanks so much again for reading. You are greatly appreciated! : )