I get that you meant well and this isn't an attack on your article. It's just that as Black women, we have long since been characterized by White people, White men in particular, and this often continues the cycle of perpetuating negative stereotypes because of words written in ignorance. Your article was meant to enlighten White people about the experience of Black hair care, but as a Black woman, I thought of the White people whose ONLY exposure to our hair was this article. What would they come away thinking? It gave the wrong impression of why we don't like our hair to be touched and of the experience between mother and daughter.

If you research, you will see that African women used the process of hair-braiding as a period of bonding and teaching between women. Women would sit together and tell stories and teach the younger women about life and their ancestors. This is how the hair experience was when I was growing up and I continued this with my daughter.

I'm saying if you choose to tell the story, speak of it from your wife's perspective and not generalize this for all Black women. This is the way your article reads and that is why you received some push-back from a few women in the comments. None of us should be too arrogant or above learning and I appreciate your attempt to enlighten others who may not have proximity to Black women in the way that you do. But speak for HER, not ALL of us. Thank you.