I had to stand on a nearby chair to clap for this one! I haven’t written about this situation multiple times and completely agree with you. Love who you love, but when it comes with the disrespect and degradation of those who birthed you, took care of you, and fed you, then it’s problematic tied to the historical indoctrination that whiteness = ultimate standard of beauty and most desirable mate. I sincerely appreciate you taking the time to read and respond and deeply value your input.